The biggest thing that I’ve learned in the past few years is to never force anything that you don’t want to do.

Go with the flow as they say.

Although I do believe that going with whatever nature has in store for us incredibly liberating, it’s also the reason why I became complacent, unproductive, and depressed.

It wasn’t until only later that I realized that going with the flow is best supplemented knowing that we are able to direct that flow.

We are capable of directing the flow of our lives by slowly incorporating small habits and activities towards our idea of success.

So when we do decide to take the sharp turn towards the river crossing that we want to go, we’re able to do so – “effortlessly”.

It’s because we already primed ourselves, the boat, to shift towards that desired flow way before the crossing came to view.

We “prepared” ourselves for that crossing fully knowing that crossing may not exist.

We simply prepared because that’s what we want to be and incorporate into our character.

To put it simply, we prepared simply just because it felt good. So if any opportunity comes, we are already prepared. However, we are not exempt from the disappointment that our preparations are a waste.

But it’s imperative to stay optimistic and realistic, that our efforts aren’t in vain and would always result into an outcome that we may least suspect.

Life is weird and let it be weird. Life has plans that are so much more fulfilling, and also depressing, than we originally planned it to be.

We can never force to change the direction of the flow. It isn’t abrupt. It risks the boat going overboard or it goes against the stream making us realize that it’s pointless and would never progress.

We should work with the river to our favor by subtly changing the direction by changing the properties of the boat, subtly shifting the environment, finding people who can influence the flow slightly, working on what we can control.

That’s what I realized in these short years.